Thursday, June 18, 2015


     I am a “little i”. Ironically, my “little i” is my “higher self” in that it is my bond with the universal in mankind. My “little i” is its “brother’s keeper”.

     But, I also have a “big I” as well. This “big I” is, ironically, my “lower self” in the sense that it is self-centered, vain and self-serving. It seeks to estrange me from everyone else, it wants to be its “brother’s jailer”.

     My “big i” wants a greater portion of life’s booty for me. It is proud of what I have accomplished in my life. It wants to stand in a public place and shout out a list of my greatness to the world. “Give me a little more me, please!” (Bob Stanford)

     My “little i” knows that, actually, very few people care. My “little i” finds it boring to continually listen to my Big I talk about my Big I’s accomplishments. My “little i” does not live in a Tower bearing my name. My “little i” does not need these things. It does not need put other people down in order to feel big.


     It is very interesting to have these two I’s within.

My Big I seems to be encouraged by outer groups, laws and governmental policies and bureaucratic systems; while my littleness is not. This has unexpected consequences. The more that my “little i” has to struggle to practice humility and humbleness, it becomes more and more aware of the multitude of ways that the Big I’s have created a system of self-serving egos who really don’t give a damn for one another but who prop one another up like a giant stack of very thin playing cards which looks very impressive.

     My “little i” is true to myself is my True Self. It has the power to live life without needing life to come to it. It recognizes the struggle for the True Self in others and supports that struggle but needs and wants no recognition for this support. This is just what “little i’s” do.

     All “little i’s” have a set of values and practices which comprise their unique integrity. These make the “little i’s” consistent and coherent. Others depend on them for being themselves, always.  The struggle of my “little i” makes it stronger. It is not bitter that life is dominated by “Big I’s”, drug dealers, corporate bullies, or people who regret that they have no time to do their jobs well; and it does not “give up” or “give in” to the insanity of big systems. “These are just another opportunity to practice equanimity.”


My Big I wants all the big things: fame, glory, wealth, accomplishments, the Tower named after me, the Gold, Stocks and hot cars, beautiful women, and a “mass outpouring of love from a grateful nation” (Woody Allen). My Big I would quietly sit for days and listen to a stadium filled with celebrities reading a list of my Big I’s greatness (even if it was full of lies and boasts) at the end my Big I would say “thank you” and tell you, “I am too nice a guy to say you’re lying.” (Shel Silverstein)

Most of all, my Big I loves POWER. Not just a small amount, we’re talking megalomania, addiction to “myself”. And, if this addiction to self were to cost as much as heroine, my Big I would sell all its trophies and lose all its glory because it thinks it wants more bigness.

But, there is never enough bigness.

What does my “little i” want? Not much. It's enough to show up and do a few little things on a regular basis.

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Sunday, June 14, 2015


    I am the Being of Failure. My minions are Legion; meaning that my operations are highly diversified and my product line EXTREMELY well accepted. This era is one of my favorites. LOT of failure to go around. By whose standard are you a failure?

    99% of the Twitter, Facebook, and Social Media posts tell you that you are a failure according to one or another research poll. “Research”, that’s the magic, scientific-sounding word.  Admit it, you don’t feel rich enough, smart enough, happy enough, or have a relationship that is PERFECT.

    So, you are a failure by somebody’s scale. Researchers create these polls and scales for self-promotion - to get greater “re-tweets”, “likes” or “shares”. You feel bad and justify your failure because so many other people are failures, too. Then you “share” and pull somebody else down and help them realize they are failures because they don’t do this or that, or because they DO do this or that.

    Multi-level failure marketing. Nice. Helps failure continue to be used by the largest Corporations, Brands, Megalomaniacs, Potentates, Clans, Governments and Religions.

     Was I worried there for a moment?  Nah, not really. Failure goes big.


     Failure is a communications motivational model used in Economics, Religion and Politics worldwide. It’s called an “Injection” model because we “injet” fear of failure into ALL situations.

     Economically fear of failure sets up motivation. You buy stuff and do stuff to compensate for an inner felt lack. For example, an 87 year old Mother-In-Law might buy “ANTI-AGING CREAM” from QVC in gallon buckets. Or, you might buy new i

Gizmo. Or dip your tootsies into exotic beaches because... you have to prove to yourself you are not an economic failure! Nice.

     Religiously, failure means, once again, you failed! You have got to get control of yourself. Try harder. Be better, do gooder or else... JUDGMENT! Ah, Judgment. My old theocratic friend.

     Politically, fear of failure means you will vote the candidate who is promising you what you want, not necessarily what they can or will deliver: better life? Better job? Lower taxes? A safety net? Kill your enemies? Keep you safer (whatever that means)? Yes, you will vote for the one who makes sure your COUNTRY is rich, powerful, beautiful, young and NOT A FAILURE!  (See how this works?)


     The last thing Failure wants is to fail. But, what is GENUINE success to Failure?

     If I have GENUINELY succeeded - not just the spin-offs, but GENUINE - you feel SHAME.

     Not the “fake shame” that 99% of those polls, or “authorities”, bosses, bullies try to use to manipulate you, into buying something, following the rules, or voting for the fear monger; Not that.

But, GENUINE, deep down inside, cheek-burning shame. Soul chilling, heart dropping, tear creating Shame. The Shame which is related to a part of you which goes deep inside. This Shame awakens you to yourself. Helps you become aware of your self-illusions, self-deceptions, one-sidedness, ignorance, egotism, vanity, and other truths we have been hiding from yourself.

     Your reality. Hit that Shame, and a specific, genuine weakness emerges to stand beside you and confront you. “Hey! Did it again, didn’t you?”

One by one as you go through life, they will emerge. They are real. Feel the Shame. Get the wisdom. Correct those weaknesses one-by-one. 

That’s what Failure wants – to be useful, genuinely.

Oh, and, here are things you CANNOT FAIL AT: Being tender. Have self-compassion. Practicing Fortitude to face each weakness.

One final thing? Could someone please help that 87 year old Mother In Law to trowel those gallons of ANTI-AGING CREAM from those buckets onto her house? The paint is peeling. ;>)

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Monday, June 1, 2015



Aged Love seems to love what was once there, or beholds what was once there in what is now here.


My Big I wants all the big things: fame, glory, wealth, accomplishments, the Tower named after me, the Gold, Stocks and hot cars, beautiful women, and a “mass outpouring of love from a grateful nation” (Woody Allen).My "little i" My “little i” does not need put other people down in order to feel big. It is very interesting to have these two I's within.


YOU ARE A FAILURE BY SOMEBODY'S SCALE.Failure is used by the largest Corporations, Brands, Megalomaniacs, Potentates, Clans, Governments and Religions.Failure is big.

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