I am the Being of Failure. My minions are Legion; meaning that my operations are highly diversified and my product line EXTREMELY well accepted. This era is one of my favorites. LOT of failure to go around. By whose standard are you a failure?
99% of the Twitter, Facebook, and Social Media posts tell you that you are a failure according to one or another research poll. “Research”, that’s the magic, scientific-sounding word. Admit it, you don’t feel rich enough, smart enough, happy enough, or have a relationship that is PERFECT.
So, you are a failure by somebody’s scale. Researchers create these polls and scales for self-promotion - to get greater “re-tweets”, “likes” or “shares”. You feel bad and justify your failure because so many other people are failures, too. Then you “share” and pull somebody else down and help them realize they are failures because they don’t do this or that, or because they DO do this or that.
Multi-level failure marketing. Nice. Helps failure continue to be used by the largest Corporations, Brands, Megalomaniacs, Potentates, Clans, Governments and Religions.
Was I worried there for a moment? Nah, not really. Failure goes big.
WHY AM I HERE?
Failure is a communications motivational model used in Economics, Religion and Politics worldwide. It’s called an “Injection” model because we “injet” fear of failure into ALL situations.
Economically fear of failure sets up motivation. You buy stuff and do stuff to compensate for an inner felt lack. For example, an 87 year old Mother-In-Law might buy “ANTI-AGING CREAM” from QVC in gallon buckets. Or, you might buy new i
Gizmo. Or dip your tootsies into exotic beaches because... you have to prove to yourself you are not an economic failure! Nice.
Religiously, failure means, once again, you failed! You have got to get control of yourself. Try harder. Be better, do gooder or else... JUDGMENT! Ah, Judgment. My old theocratic friend.
Politically, fear of failure means you will vote the candidate who is promising you what you want, not necessarily what they can or will deliver: better life? Better job? Lower taxes? A safety net? Kill your enemies? Keep you safer (whatever that means)? Yes, you will vote for the one who makes sure your COUNTRY is rich, powerful, beautiful, young and NOT A FAILURE! (See how this works?)
WHAT DO I WANT?
The last thing Failure wants is to fail. But, what is GENUINE success to Failure?
If I have GENUINELY succeeded - not just the spin-offs, but GENUINE - you feel SHAME.
Not the “fake shame” that 99% of those polls, or “authorities”, bosses, bullies try to use to manipulate you, into buying something, following the rules, or voting for the fear monger; Not that.
But, GENUINE, deep down inside, cheek-burning shame. Soul chilling, heart dropping, tear creating Shame. The Shame which is related to a part of you which goes deep inside. This Shame awakens you to yourself. Helps you become aware of your self-illusions, self-deceptions, one-sidedness, ignorance, egotism, vanity, and other truths we have been hiding from yourself.
Your reality. Hit that Shame, and a specific, genuine weakness emerges to stand beside you and confront you. “Hey! Did it again, didn’t you?”
One by one as you go through life, they will emerge. They are real. Feel the Shame. Get the wisdom. Correct those weaknesses one-by-one.
That’s what Failure wants – to be useful, genuinely.
Oh, and, here are things you CANNOT FAIL AT: Being tender. Have self-compassion. Practicing Fortitude to face each weakness.
One final thing? Could someone please help that 87 year old Mother In Law to trowel those gallons of ANTI-AGING CREAM from those buckets onto her house? The paint is peeling. ;>)
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