WHO AM I?
I volunteer and teach a self-development program Stone Valley
Correctional Facility. I like the name “Stone
Valley” because usually when someone feels they are “between a rock and a hard
place” they may take on the difficult work of changing their self, or their selves. Yes, selves.
Rudolf Steiner, a
spiritual scientist (1861-1925) in a lecture in 1913 spoke of these two “selves”
within each of us: a wiser person and a less-wise one. Nobel Prize winning psychologist,
Daniel Kahneman, confirmed the presence of two selves by scientific research.
Kahneman named the “less-wise” one our “System 1 or S1 self” and the “wiser one”
our “System 2 or S2 self”. S1 is our in-built, automatic, intuitive,
spontaneous way of thinking, feeling and behaving. Our S2 way of thinking and
judging controls S1 but takes effort and practice, and S2 is easily distracted
by S1. There is a struggle between them.
My program makes use
of six exercises created by Rudolf Steiner in the 1920s. These exercises are
designed to strengthen S2 thinking, feeling and willing. They are ridiculously
simple but are amazingly hard because they challenge our S1 self. I compare
these “soul gym” exercises to basketball exercises like “pick and roll” drills.
Such drills require inner self-control of S1.
Each week I assign a homework
exercise. Last week was Control of Thinking. This week is Control of Will or
intentionality. As in sports training in which you are trying to change
habitual physical behavior, these exercises call forth resistances. For
example, when assigned a S2 exercise for thinking, the typical S1 response is
doubt: “That won’t work.” “That’s stupid.”
WHY AM I HERE?
My class is adult education, not therapy. But, S1 – our habitual
ways of thinking, feeling and willing - complains and resists, After all, S1 is
who we are. S1 is totally habitual, and we have carefully built up habits of
mind and feelings. These are our “done policies” of life – how we’ve always
done things, how we will do things.
Many of these unconscious ways of being have contributed to why these men are
incarcerated and why they are now “between a rock and a hard place.” Like a
basketball team, we need to see who has “coached” us.
We live between “the
rock” - our self and “the hard place”, world. In the world, we are “under the
influence of” and coached or directed by family, culture, friends, laws,
economics, our desires or many other forces. Our “self”, our S1 and S2, respond
to the demands, obligations, duties of the world. Do we have choices to make
about what we allow to influence us, good or bad? This puts S1 and S2 in a struggle.
“I like this.” “You ought to do that.”
We have built ourselves
up through our experiences: life has been easy, life has been hard, I have
certain capacities and certain lacks. Patterns. Habits. At every level. We
rarely go into the soul gym.
WHAT DO I WANT?
Some of us feel that our S1 self “calls the shots”. I gave an
example of a “pick and roll” choice I made to control my S1 self years
ago. I think quickly. In the corporate
world, where the value is placed on “expertise”, having quick responses to
situations is very valuable. In a non-hierarchical world, where team work and shared
decision making is valued, relying on one person is counter productive- even
rejected, it works against a team’s build-up proficiency in decision making
In basketball, you “set a pick” by
stepping in front of a hard-charging opponent. I decided I would set a pick on
my speedy intellect in team meetings by literally putting my hand over my mouth
– shutting me up to watch the group deliberate.
One man in my class said that for
him, the major motivation were his emotions, his rage. For years he had been
filled with rage, that he was rage! He
“set a pick” on his rage by crossing his arms in order to hold himself in an attempt
not to get into trouble. His S2 was “reminding” himself.
We discussed that when
you “set a pick” and stop any opponent, you are then free to “roll” toward the
basket. He sat and thought about this while the class concluded.
Before he left, he
commented about a band-aid I had on the back of my hand. I told him it was a
minor cut. He then gave me a recipe to make a healing salve from an aloe juice
and honey.
How about that? He set
a pick, stopped the S1 rage, and then his S2 compassion “rolled” its way
through, or around, his rage. Nice.
© Copyright 2016, Jean W. Yeager
All Rights Reserved
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